Fugitives from Fundamentalism

The Musings of Adult Missionary Kids (MKs) & Former Born-Again Believers

Why Do Christians Have Such Shitty Lives?

Posted by dsc01 on July 12, 2011

This hardly qualifies as a proper post–just a rant–but seriously, guys! What is Christians’ problem?

Every day on Facebook, my Christian friends post about their trials and tribulations and how awful everything is.

“Oh, God, give me strength!”

“I’m giving it up to God!”

What the fuck does that even mean? The comments stack up beneath these poor martyrs’ statuses–“Just let go and let God,” “It’s hard, but you’ve just got to surrender.”

Does it just mean that they’re going to quit worrying about petty anxieties? You can do that without invoking God (or bothering your friends with self-indulgent pity parties).

How about you just quit being a drama queen and notice how life greets you with good things and bad things every day? And when something really bad comes along–something that wounds you deeply–why not just feel that sorrow, work through it, and quit it with the sackcloth-and-ashes routine?

For a group that so constantly preaches about “loosing the chains,” I’ve never seen so many people in bondage to their own misery.

5 Responses to “Why Do Christians Have Such Shitty Lives?”

  1. JN said

    Ha! I love this post. I know exactly what you mean.

    “PTL my life blows.”

  2. Clamence said

    Preach it, brother! You need to repackage this a la Stuff Christian Culture Likes and send it to the lady over there, Stephanie, so that it fits that same format: Stuff Christian Culture Likes #1205: “Being Enslaved to Christ And Facebooking My Utter Misery About It”

  3. Paulo said

    Well, when you hold the view that the entire world is corrupt and evil and believe that it’s only a matter of time until you’re taken to a very real, totally perfect world that is just beyond your reach and way beyond the blue, it’s only natural that you will want to bitch all day about how your life sucks.

    Thanks, the post made me laugh! Cheers

  4. Ann said

    Yes, this is a problem among the believing community. They are easily overwhelmed by the petty pains of everyday life. It can be quite boring to listen to people bitch, I should know, lol. I do want to note agnostics/atheists and believers seem to have one thing in common, they both love to complain about other people. It seems to be a human thing. Of course, I am not human.

    The way I handle this idiocy of humans is by recognizing my own times of suffering, you know the way it feels to live day by day with pain that feels like being on fire, and acknowledge most people don’t have the coping skills to alleviate this pain. Bitching helps us mitigate our pain or annoyances, but is a fairly ineffective coping mechanism. However if done productively, say in therapy, many people report a decrease in their sensations of emotional suffering. Unfortunately, no one can bring a loved one back to life, force someone to love them, reverse the development of drug dependence or disease by a family member or close friend, take away the memory of a traumatic event like a rape or assault, or make themselves instantaneously less poor. To be honest, the world is full of things causing legitimate suffering. Christians have shitty lives like most people, but some people have better coping mechanisms. It is my experience religion and belief helps little with the pain of this life, and it is more about encouraging suffering through this life to get to the other, better, pain free life. So they trudge through this one, never realizing this one is the only one.

    Yeah, I get tired of it too, but then when I hear another story of pain that has no solution, I understand it. Complaining about these people could help me feel better in the moment, but the problem is still there… Religious beliefs keep people from being true to themselves and facing life honestly. It is sad religion, rather than freeing people the way they believe from the chains of this life, actually chains them to this life. We atheists have our own burden: the burden of self-responsibility and aloneness. This, in a sense, chains us as well, I think.

    Here’s a good quote by Maslow, the developmental psychologist who came up with the “hierarchy of needs” idea, sorta summing up my little speech: “One does not complain about water because it is wet, nor about rocks because they are hard . . . As the child looks out upon the world with wide, uncritical and innocent eyes, simply noting and observing what is the case, without either arguing the matter or demanding that it be otherwise, so does the self-actualizing person look upon human nature both in himself and in others” (he also wrote: “the study of crippled, stunted, immature, and unhealthy specimens can yield only a cripple psychology and a cripple philosophy”).

  5. JN said

    ~Tomas Transtromer

    We got ready and showed our home
    The visitor thought: you live well.
    The slum must be inside you.

    Inside the church, pillars and vaulting
    white as plaster, like the cast
    around the broken arm of faith.

    Inside the church there’s a begging bowl
    that slowly lifts from the floor
    and floats along the pews.

    But the church bells have gone underground.
    They’re hanging in the sewage pipes.
    Whenever we take a step, they ring.

    Nicodemus the sleepwalker is on his way
    to the Address. Who’s got the Address?
    Don’t know. But that’s where we’re going.

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